Smart way of parenting
With age the child becomes a teenager, his behavior may make you upset. The penalty was awarded when he was breaking the rules. But whether it is proper parenting that you apply?
Do not feel the time pass quickly, once your child is still very dependent on you has now turned into an independent teenager. But the name of children, behaviors that they made during the middle adulthood, often makes you feel irritated. Take the example of an increasingly unruly behavior.
Think for a moment, do you still apply the same punishment to him as when he was a child? Naturally, with age children become older, parents also need to adapt the punishment appropriate for the child themselves.
It is true, our children are now maturing process toward becoming more mature. But keep in mind, no matter how a child will still need guidance and supervision from parents. For if let it go unattended, one-one you will face even more serious problems in the years ahead.
Currently, your child will greatly test the ability and your patience. There are some errors in care that may unknowingly be done by parents. For example, fears of negative actions are likely to enter the child's life. This concern is like a child hanging out with the wrong friends, taking drugs, to promiscuity.
"Raising a child with a fear of things like that, instead will make the child fell on the negative actions that you fear," said Director of Youth Development at Tufts University PhD Richard Lerner taken from webmd.com page.
Fear of bad things that affect the mind of parents, will only make the years passed with the child feels unhappy. Instead, he recommends that parents focus more on interests and hobbies which acted by children, even though you really do not understand is their favorite.
This way, you will open up new avenues of communication with children, who can link back to the relationship between parents with children who initially stiff. Additionally, you also will learn something from the hobby that is relatively new.
In parenting, whether you're the type of parents who always obeyed the rules as written in the books that nurture you read? Beware trapped in the rigid rules like in the book than to trust your instincts
"Parents usually act rigidly follow the advice in parenting books that read," said Robert Evans, EdD.
Author of Family Matters: How Schools Can Cope with the Crisis in Child rearing is to say, the book could be a problem when parents are replacing them with the skills of their own.
"If the recommendation is offered a book does not fit with the character of the child, parents will actually become more frantic and less confident in parenting their own children," said Robert.
Said to Robert, there is nothing wrong prism of books and articles like this caregiving. But make the passage to get a view of its own in facing problems and look at the situation. So, the book only as a reference in making decisions, which is balanced by instinct you have.
Take also the time to talk with your spouse and children, to get the best solution. Another mistake that parents do is think too much about the little things really inappropriate question. For example, you do not like the clothes worn by the child's choice or style haircut. Or the child is not successfully elected as a representative of the school in a competition.
Before you intervene, you should think first. Acts committed during the child is part of self-expression or not put him in trouble, give them the freedom to act and decide something.
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